Your fine PC, I’ve been there, Only it was my half-sister and mother.
Just please, don’t be afraid to talk to us, you have a family here now.
And you always will.
I’ve experienced the mental torture of a mentally ill parent.
It took most of my life to come to grips with it and escape the influence they had on me.
As Scars said, we can talk here.
it seems ‘our age’ put us in a same boat.! your family (PC, tho i had 2 sisters) and Scars life…
and you have my life.! my S-D kept beating me into a mold / clone of him… i could not do any
better than him.! .. after his funeral, we found out he had many kids ,, 7 that we know of, and
4 that we didn’t,. showed to the funeral, 6 called that could not make it. (all different moms…)
he accused mom of sleeping around, even tho she had 4 kids, total,. us 3 by him,. and one
after she bailed and remarried… so,,, she had 4, while married, and his 20+ kids only 3.!!
also, i told the wife, “IF any show up and claim to be ‘my family’. Shoot thru the door.!”
… if you want talk / rant / soapbox. WE will be here.!! and like i told Scars, you Have my
number CALL, if you need to talk.!! (any of you.!)
“I would rather, listen for hours! than read about you, on the back page.!!!”
Once again you all remind me of the relatively sheltered life I have
led, although it didn’t feel like it at the time. My father was a piece
of work in ways, but there was a lot in him to admire and try to live
up to as well. I have the bit I wrote to read at his funeral last year.
It starts with the theme, choose what is worth remembering, worth
dwelling on. If you can find -anything- worth admiring, try your best
to put that at the forefront, and if you can’t, then accept that you
have examples of things to guard against emulating. I have both.
Be careful what you say to the young. It sticks.
But I outlived all of the bastards. That’s something, I guess.
Not wanting pity, just understanding.
Of where I am and why.
Your fine PC, I’ve been there, Only it was my half-sister and mother.
Just please, don’t be afraid to talk to us, you have a family here now.
And you always will.
Thank you. That means a lot.
I’ve experienced the mental torture of a mentally ill parent.
It took most of my life to come to grips with it and escape the influence they had on me.
As Scars said, we can talk here.
Hang in there, Petercat.
(i’ve stopped calling both my brothers, brothers. They each managed to kill such thoughts. Easily)
And now for something COMPLETELY different:
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/VRlWZuatU_U
🙂 😀
it seems ‘our age’ put us in a same boat.! your family (PC, tho i had 2 sisters) and Scars life…
and you have my life.! my S-D kept beating me into a mold / clone of him… i could not do any
better than him.! .. after his funeral, we found out he had many kids ,, 7 that we know of, and
4 that we didn’t,. showed to the funeral, 6 called that could not make it. (all different moms…)
he accused mom of sleeping around, even tho she had 4 kids, total,. us 3 by him,. and one
after she bailed and remarried… so,,, she had 4, while married, and his 20+ kids only 3.!!
also, i told the wife, “IF any show up and claim to be ‘my family’. Shoot thru the door.!”
… if you want talk / rant / soapbox. WE will be here.!! and like i told Scars, you Have my
number CALL, if you need to talk.!! (any of you.!)
“I would rather, listen for hours! than read about you, on the back page.!!!”
Once again you all remind me of the relatively sheltered life I have
led, although it didn’t feel like it at the time. My father was a piece
of work in ways, but there was a lot in him to admire and try to live
up to as well. I have the bit I wrote to read at his funeral last year.
It starts with the theme, choose what is worth remembering, worth
dwelling on. If you can find -anything- worth admiring, try your best
to put that at the forefront, and if you can’t, then accept that you
have examples of things to guard against emulating. I have both.